This Personal Leadership Trait Needs Our Acknowledgment
The telling question as to whether you possess this leadership trait is: 'Are you doing what you want to, every moment of every day?'
Well congratulations to those of you who know you are!
Actually, we are all doing exactly what we want to do everyday. The sooner we recognize this, the sooner we will claim the incredible power of this personal leadership trait.
OK, I can hear some of you saying...
but I didn't do what I wanted to do today!
I can relate...
A number of years ago I was pushing myself along to work on cold crisp winter mornings, grumbling a bit under a rather frosty breath, and thinking I'd much rather be curling up at home with a good book, or catching up with a friend over a hot cup of coffee, or something more spectacular perhaps...
sailing in the tropics...
but no I was trudging to work.
doing one thing and feeling you are doing it out of pressure or necessity, not preference? Have you had days where you felt you would much rather be going to play golf, or surfing, or...
visit a good friend ...
but no, you had 'obligations'.
What effect do you think that has, to be doing something and telling yourself that you don't want to be doing it? It is undermining and disrespectful isn't it. Certainly not behavior representative of strong leadership traits.
So how do we manage to support ourselves and truthfully say that what we are doing is exactly what we want to be doing?
After work on one of those days, I was walking down a cobblestone section of street, grumbling about work and wishing I was doing something else. I wasn't happy in this state, certainly not living my potential. I was trodding on the stones like they were my troubles, and these very stones were leading me somewhere...
stepping stones to something better.
Suddenly I heard a little bell ringing...
tingle tingle tingle,.. and a door opened. I looked up and walked through it, into one of my favorite places. It was a place of ideas, full of potential...
it was a bookstore. I started browsing and picked up a book by Bill Gates, flipped it open and read these words,..
"The most empowering thing you can do in your life is to recognize that what you are doing is what you have chosen to be doing".
This caused me to pause....
Bill might know something about this, do you think?
His words were 'the most empowering thing you can do'. This means that 'to recognize that what you are doing is what you have chosen to be doing' is the most empowering self leadership trait there is!
I realized I'd been tragically disempowering myself, undermining myself. I'd been doing one thing...
grumbling and going to work, and telling myself I wanted to be doing something else.
Can you see the battle going on inside...
It was disrespectful of myself to start with, and then you have to ask... if it's not what I wanted to be doing, why was I doing it??
I thought about Gates' statement...
"recognizing that what I was doing was what I had chosen to do", and then it was like a light went on inside my head. I realized that I had been doing exactly what I wanted to do be doing, and in fact I always did exactly what I wanted to be doing! The reality behind this leadership trait dawned on me, it's a bargaining process...
I'll do 'this' so I can have some of 'that'. I'll go to work because then I can.. fill in the blank...
- fly around the world to visit great locations, and family and friends
- buy that family dream home
- spend Saturday at the kids tournament because I want to invest in them and their friends
We constantly bargain based on our priorities.
I started to feel empowered already in the bookstore. I wanted to do a little dance with my new realization and shout out "I'm doing exactly what I want in life, woohoo!" But I didn't...
I 'was' still in the bookstore. :)
We constantly bargain with ourselves to obtain the most suitable outcome for our desired style of living. So it follows that it really is a fact that we are doing what we want to do. I encourage you to follow this thread of justification through whatever it is you do that sometimes gives you the feeling that 'you don't want to be doing it'. Ask yourself:
- Why am I doing this?
- What is the desired outcome I am gaining?
- Is it worth it to me? Have I bargained it at the correct value in my life?
If not, then correct it, change the balance in your life so that you can happily state an emphatic YES, I am doing exactly what I want to be doing! When we can do that, we have fully adopted this powerful personal leadership trait.
In acknowledging that we are doing what we want, we are:
- now respecting ourselves
- taking responsibility for our actions
- in agreement within ourselves
- supporting our decisions and our dreams
- empowering ourselves
This certainly doesn't mean that we will never change what we are doing. Our priorities are likely to change and then we alter our direction.
However, we can be confident in every new step we take. All of our choices have brought us to this place, and we are moving toward our goals. We can have pride in our actions and even be courageous, knowing that we are on the path where we belong.
We can be sure, we are always 'in the right place at the right time'!
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